Is this jealousy or abuse? Sometimes jealousy can affect people so much that they become abusive. Someone might show this abuse by: checking your phone for calls or texts checking your emails or social networking profiles following you to check up on what you are doing shouting at you, or physically hurting you if you dont do what they want you to do. This behaviour is abusive and is a sign that someones jealousy is out of control. If someone is abusing you in this way, even if it is because they say they love you, this is wrong...