*Singleness*

Boet

2015/02/26 01:04

Well, being single after being married, or in a relationship is surely challenging, yes. To adjust from previous expectancies, habits sharing, responsibilities, is not easy. Some can never adjust, and then latch onto the first available person crossing their paths. Most of the time with disastrous results!

jaQui

2015/02/26 01:14

Boet... I agree with you... Its not easy to change or to pretend that you have changed and in the end it was all for nothing,,, peanuts. Love.. smiley

_dreamprince_

2015/02/26 01:43

Its good to be single ,we can enjoy the life more without any problems but love is more sweet

jaQui

2015/02/26 01:46

_dreamprince_: Its good to be single ,we can enjoy the life more without any problems but love is more sweet

true, but love can become bitter sweet

Georginia

2015/02/26 11:51

I love being single. Feel free to do anything, its 'happy independence" for me smiley

Jollyman

2015/02/26 18:47

To be Single its ok doesnt matters lot bt once u are in relation n then get single,thts painfull.

Xiao Zen

2015/02/27 08:56

jacki: Many of us who have been single for a long time just accepted singleness, and moved on. If happen, it happens. Another reason for being independent was to survive life. But once were in a relationship, you need to let go of some behaviors that could prove challenging when you need to operate as one. Will you be able to change and let go for the sake of LOVE...? smiley

Did you have specific behaviours in mind?

jaQui

2015/02/27 09:24

Opium: Did you have specific behaviours in mind?

No 2 ppl are the same so it will depends on our lifestyle i guess. smiley

Xiao Zen

2015/02/27 09:38

jacki: No 2 ppl are the same so it will depends on our lifestyle i guess. smiley

Then I would say the question of whether or not to change would also depend on many things, no? There are ways to remain individual within a relationship, in fact I would go as far as to say that ideally (although not many things work out ideally) the purpose of a relationship is to enhance both and not diminish either in any way. Thus if it is a minor aspect, it can be sacrificed for the good of the relationship, whether one or both party/s chooses to or not remains a choice for the individual. A major aspect is harder to give up and is not necessarily the right choice. This is true for both parties but is most especially pertinent to women as it is taken for granted that we are obligated to.