By many standards, I am That Girl Who Is Desperate to Get Married. Personally, I think Im just a young woman who is nearly ready to be engaged, but the world is telling me otherwise. Right now, I feel like Im getting hit with an onslaught of wedding-related messages. On the one hand, theres the barrage of have a wedding be a bride have a wedding most important day of your life have a wedding get swept off your feet have a wedding!!!!! advertising. (Fun fact: images of brides can help sell anything, even if the product isnt related to weddings.) On the other hand, there are the lets gossip about That Girl Waiting Around for Her Boyfriend to Propose conversations that I constantly hear women having. And in the middle of this, there is me, a woman who feels a lot of guilt and stress about wanting to be married. Because I feel like even though I know in my gut that I want to be married for good reasons, as soon as I talk about engagement, people just assume Im some antifeminist nitwit who has bought into the hype. I hate that.and having following responsibilities... 1. You have the right to a say in your future. 2. You have the right to a say in your future even if you watch Say Yes to the Dress. 3. Women and mens feelings about marriage should be treated as equally important. 4. Women and men are both plagued by cultural narratives. 5. When youre in a serious relationship, you have a responsibility to create a new timeline that reflects both of your needs. 6. You have a responsibility to not let the idea of how things should be get in the way of really healthy, necessary conversations. 7. You have a responsibility to stop shaming women who want to get married