when is there ego? 1. when we don't get attention. 2. When we seem to be losing attention. 3. When we get attention........... Ego causes heaviness, discomfort, fear, anxiety. Ego does not let love flow. Ego is seperateness, non-belongingness, wanting to prove and possess. Ego can be transcended by knowing the truth, by enquiring 'Who am I?'. Often, we feel contempt or jealousy towards someone who is egotistical. But rather we should have compassion or even pity...... There is also a positive aspect of ego. Ego drives us to do work. A person will do a job either out of compassion or out of ego. Most of the work in society is done out of ego. But in church, mosques and temples...work is done out of love. When we wake up and see that there is nothing to be proved and nothing to possess..., ego dissolves.