Secret of being likable by Georginia 2015/09/21 06:00
When I was young I thought the secret to popularity was to be as impressive as possible so people would want to talk to me.
Instead they thought I was arrogant.
Then I examined what made me want to befriend someone, and I learned that I'd had it all backwards. The real secret to popularity is not to be impressive, but to be impressed.
I spend an entire conversation asking questions, saying "wow" and "that's so interesting" and "you know so much about this do you mind telling me more?"
I don't even need to say a word about myself; it's so much less work. Now people call me "down-to-earth", they all want to be my friend, even if the only thing they know about me is that I make them feel validated.
Everybody - from ages 1 to 100 - wants to be impressive. So let them be, and they will gravitate towards you.
When I was young I thought the secret to popularity was to be as impressive as possible so people would want to talk to me.
Instead they thought I was arrogant.
Then I examined what made me want to befriend someone, and I learned that I'd had it all backwards. The real secret to popularity is not to be impressive, but to be impressed.
I spend an entire conversation asking questions, saying "wow" and "that's so interesting" and "you know so much about this do you mind telling me more?"
I don't even need to say a word about myself; it's so much less work. Now people call me "down-to-earth", they all want to be my friend, even if the only thing they know about me is that I make them feel validated.
Everybody - from ages 1 to 100 - wants to be impressive. So let them be, and they will gravitate towards you.
SkY2k 2015/09/21 06:23
Sometimes when you down to earth with people, they tend to use and abuse you too because you seem vulnerable...
Sometimes when you down to earth with people, they tend to use and abuse you too because you seem vulnerable...
For making my topic 'TOD'
Boet 2015/09/21 23:33
For as long as you are true to yourself, and other people, you will be likeable. People will always know where they stand with you, and not wonder what falsehoods may lurking inside you
For as long as you are true to yourself, and other people, you will be likeable. People will always know where they stand with you, and not wonder what falsehoods may lurking inside you
TinHeart 2015/10/15 08:33
I could never Be like this.Saying "wow" and asking dumb questions just to get under someone's skin just to Be popular?!
Love me or hate me,I don't care bit If You like me,atleast like me for what I truelly am.
I could never Be like this.Saying "wow" and asking dumb questions just to get under someone's skin just to Be popular?!
Love me or hate me,I don't care bit If You like me,atleast like me for what I truelly am.
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