RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES FOR THAT GIRL WHO IS D by kris1920 2014/06/03 17:36
By many standards, I am That Girl Who
Is Desperate to Get Married.
Personally, I think Im just a young
woman who is nearly ready to be
engaged, but the world is telling me
otherwise.
Right now, I feel like Im getting hit with
an onslaught of wedding-related
messages. On the one hand, theres the
barrage of have a wedding be a bride
have a wedding most important day of
your life have a wedding get swept off
your feet have a wedding!!!!!
advertising. (Fun fact: images of brides
can help sell anything, even if the
product isnt related to weddings.) On
the other hand, there are the lets gossip
about That Girl Waiting Around for Her
Boyfriend to Propose conversations that
I constantly hear women having.
And in the middle of this, there is me, a
woman who feels a lot of guilt and stress
about wanting to be married. Because I
feel like even though I know in my gut
that I want to be married for good
reasons, as soon as I talk about
engagement, people just assume Im
some antifeminist nitwit who has bought
into the hype. I hate that.and having following responsibilities...
1. You have the right to a say in your future.
2. You have the right to a say in your future
even if you watch Say Yes to the
Dress.
3. Women and mens feelings
about marriage should be treated as equally
important.
4. Women and men are both plagued by
cultural narratives.
5. When youre in a serious relationship,
you have a responsibility to create a new
timeline that reflects both of your needs.
6. You have a responsibility to not let the
idea of how things should be get in the
way of really healthy, necessary
conversations.
7. You have a responsibility to stop shaming
women who want to get married