your Parents by king diamond 2014/04/23 09:55
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Respect them as much as you can. Take a deep breath , counting may work at times. Relax , and don't let them get to you just walk away to cool off. Try not to look as upset as you really are.
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Do your best not to antagonize them. If you offend them, tell them you are sorry and that you regret your actions towards them If that does not work then do not hold back , tell them how you feel and take there retaliation strongly .
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Try to reason with them. If they are not letting you do a few things such as going out with friends, school dances etc., ask them why you cannot attend and explain why you think you should be able to. If they agree, willingly tell them what you will be doing, what you would need, and the time you'll return by , it will most likely give them piece of there worrying minds , also decide a curfew together and stick to it.
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Try to earn their respect by doing well at your studies, or helping them around the house seem trustworthy and respectable .
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If your parents' behavior is really bothering you, maybe it is because you aren't thinking about their side of the situation.
Being a kid or teenager makes you angry at the world sometimes, and makes it easier to point out other people's flaws instead of realizing yours but if you truly try to see their side and do not understand then do not blame yourself guilty .
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If your arguments become physical, tell someone you trust EXACTLY what happened, and don't just say, "I hate my parents, they're so mean, they did _________!
", but say in a very stern, un-bossy, calm and yet urgent voice, "I am having some serious troubles with my parents that are becoming physical and I need your help because I am not comfortable with it," or something along those lines. The trusted person will work with you and maybe your parents as well to find a successful, long-term solution to your problems.
Do not get into a situation where you are trying to earn their love, that is not something you should have to earn, you do not have to impress them for them to treat you in a respectable way. Always listen and take what they say as a tip for the future.
If your parents still won't budge, you can talk to another relative such as a brother, sister, cousin, auntie, uncle, grandparent, friend of your parents or any trusted friend.
Sometimes people with disabilities, especially hidden ones such as autism and Asperger's Syndrome do need to be supervised a little more than others. This doesn't mean they are treating you like a baby or being mean to you, it's because they need a little more care than others and that they love you and care for you, as people with autism/Asperger's Syndrome can be too trusting and naive, which can make them very easy targets for teasing, getting into trouble, difficulty and bullying. An example of naivety is when a person with Aspergers think that everyone is their friend and they don't always realise when someone is a true friend or a backstabber (nice when the person is present, but nasty when the person is absent) and they cannot always read body language. For example, they don't always know whether a person is telling the truth or lying and another example of naivety is when someone is asking you questions as people with Aspergers cannot always tell whether someone is asking them in order to show concern and be friendly and when someone is being nosey.
Understand that everyone has to deal with their parents, and that you are not the only trouble child or teen .
Once in a while everybody has a bad day. Don't let your feelings out by giving your parents a hard time. A good way to do that is to keep a diary. It will make both you and your parents feel better.
1
Respect them as much as you can. Take a deep breath , counting may work at times. Relax , and don't let them get to you just walk away to cool off. Try not to look as upset as you really are.
2
Do your best not to antagonize them. If you offend them, tell them you are sorry and that you regret your actions towards them If that does not work then do not hold back , tell them how you feel and take there retaliation strongly .
3
Try to reason with them. If they are not letting you do a few things such as going out with friends, school dances etc., ask them why you cannot attend and explain why you think you should be able to. If they agree, willingly tell them what you will be doing, what you would need, and the time you'll return by , it will most likely give them piece of there worrying minds , also decide a curfew together and stick to it.
4
Try to earn their respect by doing well at your studies, or helping them around the house seem trustworthy and respectable .
5
If your parents' behavior is really bothering you, maybe it is because you aren't thinking about their side of the situation.
Being a kid or teenager makes you angry at the world sometimes, and makes it easier to point out other people's flaws instead of realizing yours but if you truly try to see their side and do not understand then do not blame yourself guilty .
6
If your arguments become physical, tell someone you trust EXACTLY what happened, and don't just say, "I hate my parents, they're so mean, they did _________!
", but say in a very stern, un-bossy, calm and yet urgent voice, "I am having some serious troubles with my parents that are becoming physical and I need your help because I am not comfortable with it," or something along those lines. The trusted person will work with you and maybe your parents as well to find a successful, long-term solution to your problems.
Do not get into a situation where you are trying to earn their love, that is not something you should have to earn, you do not have to impress them for them to treat you in a respectable way. Always listen and take what they say as a tip for the future.
If your parents still won't budge, you can talk to another relative such as a brother, sister, cousin, auntie, uncle, grandparent, friend of your parents or any trusted friend.
Sometimes people with disabilities, especially hidden ones such as autism and Asperger's Syndrome do need to be supervised a little more than others. This doesn't mean they are treating you like a baby or being mean to you, it's because they need a little more care than others and that they love you and care for you, as people with autism/Asperger's Syndrome can be too trusting and naive, which can make them very easy targets for teasing, getting into trouble, difficulty and bullying. An example of naivety is when a person with Aspergers think that everyone is their friend and they don't always realise when someone is a true friend or a backstabber (nice when the person is present, but nasty when the person is absent) and they cannot always read body language. For example, they don't always know whether a person is telling the truth or lying and another example of naivety is when someone is asking you questions as people with Aspergers cannot always tell whether someone is asking them in order to show concern and be friendly and when someone is being nosey.
Understand that everyone has to deal with their parents, and that you are not the only trouble child or teen .
Once in a while everybody has a bad day. Don't let your feelings out by giving your parents a hard time. A good way to do that is to keep a diary. It will make both you and your parents feel better.
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