But you can rise above those tendencies, like a naturally chubby person trying to lose weight.

Quick tip: Base your activities around your natural talents, gifts, likes and dislikes, Lyubomirsky advises.

If you choose goals that fit your lifestyle and strengths, youll be more likely to persist at them and achieve them and that will make you happier, she explains.

Ask yourself: Am I doing this activity because I enjoy it and value it? The more often you can answer yes, the happier youll be.

2. Make happy friends.
Moods are strongly influenced by social groups, say Nicholas Christakis, M.D., Ph.D., a physician and sociologist at Harvard Medical School, and James Fowler, Ph.D., professor of political science at UC-San Diego.

People who surround themselves with happy friends, neighbors, relatives and spouses are more likely to be happy themselves, according to their 2008 research based on a 20-year survey.

Quick tip: The lesson is clear, says Todd Kashdan, Ph.D., an associate professor of psychology at George Mason University in Virginia and author of Curious? Discover the Missing Ingredient to a Fulfilling Life (William Morrow): If you want to reach your aspirations, surround yourself with people who look like the person you want to be.

3. Spend more time on relationships.
Experiences shared with others make us happiest.

Individual achievements, such as work, school and hobbies, dont provide the same satisfaction, according to a 2010 University of Buffalo in New York study.

When participants reported their most positive and intensely emotional experiences, connecting with others touched peoples lives the most, says co-author Shira Gabriel, Ph.D., a University of Buffalo associate professor of psychology.

Quick tip: The study also found that unhappy events involving others, such as ending a relationship or losing a loved one, were remembered as some of the most negative experiences of peoples lives.

But isolating yourself from others to avoid these bad feelings is no solution, says Lyubomirsky.

Relationships are critical to well-being, she says. The happiest people have strong relationships. Unhappy people dont have as many.

4. Have more sex with your spouse.
A happy marriage is based on more than physical intimacy. But frequent sex can make a marriage happier.
Among neurotic newlyweds those who become easily upset or are chronic worriers frequent sex raised marital satisfaction to the level of non-neurotic couples, according to a 2010 University of Tennessee study.

Thats important, because neurotic couples are more likely to divorce, the researchers wrote.

Quick tip: Other research, such as a 2004 Dartmouth University study of 16,000 people, has shown that having more sex equals more happiness. But its most effective when it comes with a strong personal bond, Lyubomirsky says.

The key is a deep, fulfilling relationship.

5. Be grateful.
Decades of research has demonstrated that feeling grateful and expressing gratitude also squash the blues.

It turns out that the benefits are stronger for women, according to a 2009 study of college students and older adults that Kashdan published in the Journal of Personality.

Men are taught to control their softer emotions, Kashdan explains. But women [are more likely to] see positive things in others.

Gratitude strengthens social connections and adds to a persons resilience and relationship skills by creating a cycle of good will, Kashdan says.

Quick tip: Write in a gratitude journal once a week and express those feelings to other people, Lyubomirsky recommends.

Even if you never send it, writing a letter of gratitude is enough to boost your happiness, she says.

6. Be generous.
Giving to others friends, family members or charity brings more happiness than spending money on yourself, according to several 2008 studies by Harvard University and the University of British Columbia published in the journal Science.

In fact, generosity may be as important to happiness as salary, say researchers.

Quick tip: Brain-imaging studies have found that both shopping and donating to others increase levels of the feel-good chemical dopamine. But giving brings longer-lasting pleasure, Kashdan explains.

When you spend [money] on someone else, it gives your life a sense of meaning and reminds you that youre a good person, he says.

7. Focus on security, not money.
Worries about financial security can chip away at happiness.

Women who worried about their future financial stability were less satisfied with their lives even if they had high incomes, according to a 2009 study conducted by psychologist Talya Miron-Shatz, Ph.D., a research fellow at the Woodrow Wilson School of Public and International Affairs in Princeton.

Many people have money worries, especially in uncertain financial times. But its possible to put feelings into perspective, Lyubomirsky says.

Quick tip: Discuss your worries with supportive friends, who can help you see the situation more realistically, she advises.

And avoid the hedonistic treadmill, she warns. Dont spend more as you earn more that means youll never achieve security, no matter how much you have.

8. Spend on experiences rather than objects.
Should you buy a new dress or take dancing lessons?

The lessons will make you happier, says Elizabeth Dunn, Ph.D., assistant professor of psychology at the University of British Columbia, who led a 2010 analysis on the topic.

Objects bring happiness when you use them, but not when you think about them, Dunn says.

But you get enjoyment from anticipating an exciting experience and remember it long after its over, she adds.

Quick tip: For even better results, make it a new experience something different from your usual patterns, Kashdan suggests. Go somewhere youve never been or visit a restaurant that serves food you haven't tried before.

Things that are interesting and a little scary give us more intense pleasure, he says.

If for some reason it goes awry, at least itll make a great story, says Kashdan.

9. Take some R&R.
Americans take fewer vacation days than people in many other countries, according to the World Tourism Association. Were offered less time off from our jobs and dont even use all the days we have, says a survey by the nonprofit Families and Work Institute.

Yet women who take vacations twice a year are less likely to be tense, depressed or tired than women who only take them once every two years, according to a 2005 study published in the Wisconsin Medical Journal.

Vacations arent just pleasurable; they also feel personal and unique, Lyubomirsky explains.

And unlike new houses or cars, were much less likely to compare our vacation with our friends vacations, she says.

Quick tip: Just planning for a vacation can make you feel good. In a 2010 Netherlands study, anticipating a future trip boosted peoples happiness for as long as eight weeks beforehand.

10. Go back to nature.
If youre looking for a shot of energy with your relaxation, take a walk in your local park, hike a wilderness trail or visit the ocean.

Anything that takes you to a natural setting will elevate your mood, according to 2009 studies at the University of Rochester in New York.

When you head for the wilderness, try not to get distracted by work or family problems, says Richard Ryan, Ph.D., a professor of psychology, psychiatry and education at the school.

But if you cant stay off your cell phone very long, dont worry.

Even 20 minutes outside is sufficient, he says.

Quick tip: Just viewing nature photographs or visualizing a wilderness excursion can boost your happiness, Ryan adds.

11. Try therapy.
Psychotherapy can make you happier even if you arent clinically depressed.

In fact, the money spent on therapy gives you 32 times more of a mood lift than getting a pay raise for the same amount, according to a 2009 study at the University of Warwick in England.

A short course of cognitive-behavioral therapy which teaches you to change negative thought patterns and self-defeating behaviors could have lasting benefits, says Lyubomirsky.

Its a good way to increase positive emotions, she says.

Nice tips..There are many many things which can make one happy..I think most important is to be happy and satisfied with what you have..
And I like the part- make your friends happy, and not only that- be happy for others and their success, that means you're not thinking only of yourself...

thank you.hug.

thanks for sharing but happiness is state of our mind :-)

I must follow thz ways